Wednesday, January 03, 2007
The Quets Debate
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Allison Quets has become a controversial figure embroiled in an extremely complicated custody battle. Some first mother groups have dropped their support of her because fo the nature of her conception.
I ask: What difference doe sit make how they were conceived...she was COERCED and her desire to revoke the adoption - stated within HOURS was ignored!!
Who are we to JUDGE when we were judged so cruelly? What difference does conception make" Some babies are conceived in love, some in lust or passion and others as a result of rape or coerced sex. Some are conceived to appease a boyfriend or husband, some are conceived as a result of incest. Some women have no idea when or by whom thye became impregnated. Some don't even know thay are pregnant until they deliver. What difference doe sit make?
If we start to judge people on how they conceived instead of on the facts of the ADOPTION case...where do we stop?
A very vocal birth mother has often made a huge point of saying that reproductive technologies are a separate issue and have nothing to do with adoption because they occur before there is a child to be adopted. I believe this is true.
Allsion Quest is a mother. Every mother has a right to not be pressured or coerced into adoption and every mother has a right to have her wish to revoke such a choice within a reasonable amount of time honored! Not just the "classic" stereotypical mothers who were young, and stayed in maternity home, and loved their boyfriend, and it was the first time they had sex...but ALL MOTHERS! Married and single, young and old, conceived intentionally or not.
I am shocked and saddened to learn that OUSA's has withdrawn support for Allison, because she may be BIOLOGICALLY connected to her twins. And these are the people that hate being called BIOLOGICAL mothers! is it the biology that makes us mothers, or is it feeling life inside our womb and wanting to raise those lives? I have heard some say that if the eggs were donated as well as the sperm, that makes her equivalent to an adoptive mother! No it does not! Adoptive mothers do not carry their children inside them, risking thei very life to bring them into the world. Whoever donated or sold the egg was DISCARDING it. They didn't care who it went to. they didn't try to revoke the sale or donation as Allison has tried to revoke the adoption of her living children.
Allison Quets has become a controversial figure embroiled in an extremely complicated custody battle. Some first mother groups have dropped their support of her because fo the nature of her conception.
I ask: What difference doe sit make how they were conceived...she was COERCED and her desire to revoke the adoption - stated within HOURS was ignored!!
Who are we to JUDGE when we were judged so cruelly? What difference does conception make" Some babies are conceived in love, some in lust or passion and others as a result of rape or coerced sex. Some are conceived to appease a boyfriend or husband, some are conceived as a result of incest. Some women have no idea when or by whom thye became impregnated. Some don't even know thay are pregnant until they deliver. What difference doe sit make?
If we start to judge people on how they conceived instead of on the facts of the ADOPTION case...where do we stop?
A very vocal birth mother has often made a huge point of saying that reproductive technologies are a separate issue and have nothing to do with adoption because they occur before there is a child to be adopted. I believe this is true.
Allsion Quest is a mother. Every mother has a right to not be pressured or coerced into adoption and every mother has a right to have her wish to revoke such a choice within a reasonable amount of time honored! Not just the "classic" stereotypical mothers who were young, and stayed in maternity home, and loved their boyfriend, and it was the first time they had sex...but ALL MOTHERS! Married and single, young and old, conceived intentionally or not.
I am shocked and saddened to learn that OUSA's has withdrawn support for Allison, because she may be BIOLOGICALLY connected to her twins. And these are the people that hate being called BIOLOGICAL mothers! is it the biology that makes us mothers, or is it feeling life inside our womb and wanting to raise those lives? I have heard some say that if the eggs were donated as well as the sperm, that makes her equivalent to an adoptive mother! No it does not! Adoptive mothers do not carry their children inside them, risking thei very life to bring them into the world. Whoever donated or sold the egg was DISCARDING it. They didn't care who it went to. they didn't try to revoke the sale or donation as Allison has tried to revoke the adoption of her living children.
# posted by Senior Mom @ 9:54 PM 
